someday, together, we'll shine

I wish people would stop assuming that all or most homophobic people are themselves secretly gay, and they’re all self-hating and projecting. Internalized homophobia exists, but that attitude erases the fact that systematic oppression is real. It places the onus of homophobia on its victims/treats it like it’s somehow just an intra-community problem that straight people don’t need to worry about or challenge each other on. That’s not how identity and oppression works; it’s as ridiculous as saying all racists are secretly PoCs.