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If you are not as concerned about the people handing you your food in the restaurant as you are about the pigs on the farm where it was grown, your approach is classist. … If you start telling someone all about your new trendy diet or asking them about theirs without knowing if they have an eating disorder that may be triggered by your prattle, your approach is ableist. If you tsk-tsk at people who are overweight for what they are eating and claim you’re concerned about their health, yet you’re not actively campaigning to make healthy food more accessible and affordable, your approach is sickening and I don’t want you in my activism.

Anonymous asked: i thought you were pansexual but you have a boyfriend,why would you lie about your sexuality

strawberrypantsu:

you said u were going to mcdonalds but you got chicken mcnuggets not a big mac why would u lie about going to mcdonalds

is essentially what you have just said to me

sansastarkt:

A shotout to Arianne Martell, who:

  • Is not only a woman of color, but also one of the very few women in ASOIAF who is in a relative position of power (sure, she is just an heir now, but when Doran dies, she will rule one of the greatest houses in Westeros).
  • Is not ashamed of using her sexuality and does so both for pleasure and for getting what she wants. And she is not shamed by anyone for this! It’s such a huge thing, when characters like Cersei, who also uses her sexuality, are constantly humiliated for doing so.
  • May use people for her own purposes, but that doesn’t necessarily mean she doesn’t care for them (“Arys, she thought, my white knight. Tears filled her eyes, and suddenly she was weeping, her whole body wracked by sobs”, “Arys, my sweet, my white knight, why did you do it? You should have yielded. I tried to tell you, but the words caught in my mouth. You gallant fool, I never meant for you to die, or for Myrcella… oh, gods be good, that little girl…”)
  • She is one of the very few nobles who is actually seen having friends, whom she seems to love very much (including an orphan — guess just how common is a noblewoman being best friends with an orphan?). She actually goes so far as asking mercy for her friends, when she thought her own life might be at risk. ("I ask leniency only for my friends."). Arianne is very much a people’s person, with it being mentioned that the people of Dorne love her.
  • Has an amazing relationship with all of her cousins. Because there are never enough female!! friendships!! (She wanted to share her first man with Tyene, so if that doesn’t tell you something…). And while she may not have their ability to use weapons, she surely has her charm.
  • Acts like the young woman she is, dreaming about dashing men (I sat beside the well and pretended that some robber knight had brought me here to have his way with me, she thought, a tall hard man with black eyes and a widow’s peak.”), and that’s perfectly fine and normal, not a reason she should be mocked for.
  • May not have the cunningness or patience of her father, but, despite her impulsivity, Arianne is not stupid — she’s just young and, in some ways, naive. Remember when she made a White Knight fall in love with her and swore his allegiance with her? Remember when she figured out that a servant of hers was in love with Garin, and she managed to manipulate the girl into sending a message for her, while she was imprisoned? (Well, granted, that plot did not work, because Doran’s too good, but still.)
  • Despite all her fights with her father and the disappointment she feels towards him at first, Arianne still loves Doran and would never hurt him. (It is time he put his burdens down, but I will suffer no slights to his honor or his person. She would return him to his Water Gardens, to live out what years remained him surrounded by laughing children and the smell of limes and oranges.”)
  • Is simply an amazing female character.
  • And let’s not forget: “That is Nymeria’s star, burning bright, and that milky band behind her, those are ten thousand ships. She burned as bright as any man, and so shall I. You will not rob me of my birthright!”

darkspawning:

Female Qunari Warrior

#you’ll find me on the floor #pale as a sheet #hair blown back #whispering #'thighs'

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Anonymous asked: Everyone's talking about Arianne being cut from the series, why is this a big deal?

apriki:

Because if it is true, what they’ve done is taken a major POV chapter female character from the books and erased her and given her role to a male FOR LITERALLY NO REASON. WHAT IS THE REASON? WHY ARE THEY DOING THIS? HOW DOES IT BENEFIT THE SHOW AND THE STORY TO TAKE AWAY ARIANNE’S STORY AND GIVE IT TO A DUDE? THERE IS NO REASON THERE’S NOT ONE REASON

and like if that wasn’t bad enough, so much of the point of bringing in Dorne and the Dornish characters is to show how differently they view and treat women within the medieval hell that is Westeros. It’s the only kingdom that doesn’t practice primogeniture and has a history of female rulers (for example, Doran and Oberyn’s mother, not their father, ruled in Dorne. BUT WHEN THEY THREW A THROWAWAY REFERENCE TO DORNE’S PREVIOUS RULER IN THE SHOW, THEY CHANGED IT TO A MAN LIKE LMAO WOW D&D DID WOULD IT REALLY FUCKING KILL YOU TO MENTION A RULING PRINCESS DON’T LET THE DOOR HIT YOUR BASIC ASS ON THE WAY OUT). The whole fucking kingdom was founded by a woman. It serves as a way to show that the misogyny is Westeros is not the norm, but a choice and that it’s not like that everywhere. It’s easy for the reader to be like ‘okay, this is a medieval-based world, of course women aren’t going to rule’, but Dorne just existing the way it does throws that completely out of the window and it’s REALLY IMPORTANT. 

And like a concept so central to the asoiaf series is shining a light on how misogynistic the fantasy genre itself often is, how female characters are underdeveloped or token ‘sorceress’ villains or two-dimensional love interests. It shows through example how authors have the choice to write dynamic roles for women in a fantasy setting but just choose not to and blame it on the standard within their world? like YOU WROTE THIS WORLD. YOU INVENTED IT. YOU HAVE MADE UP THE CUSTOMS AND TRADITIONS OF THIS WORLD AND WILLINGLY CHOSEN TO NOT INCLUDE WOMEN IN THAT OR SHOW HOW THEY CAN STILL HAVE STORYLINES AND CHARACTER DEVELOPMENT IN A SETTING THAT SUFFOCATES THEM

And like by choosing FOR NO REASON (!!!!!!!!!!!!) to TAKE AWAY a female character like Arianne - who is sexual, who owns her sexuality, who uses it as a weapon, who was raised to rule, who is confident in her power, who is in cahoots with her girl gang cousins (who are all powerful in their own ways, who all identify their femininity differently and use it as a tool differently) to STAGE A COUP AND PUT A FEMALE ON A THRONE OF THE ENTIRE SEVEN KINGDOMS BY USING THE VERY LAWS OF DORNE THAT GIVE HER POWER is honestly just so fucking offensive. And stupid. And throwing one of the key tenets of the series back in its face probably because they’ve seen how ”’badass”’ people think Oberyn was and want another ”’badass”’ Dornish character just like him and of course that can’t be a woman!! No woman cool here!! Tough boy make show better!! Go jump off a cliff.

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  • Uterus: oh you have a completely full day of activity??
  • Me: don't
  • Uterus: and a sleepover afterwards??
  • Me:
  • Uterus: hardly any breaks??
  • Me:
  • Uterus: wouldn't it be a shame
  • Uterus: if something were to
  • Me:
  • Uterus: happen

allerasphinx:

Ming-na Wen and Retta at NerdHQ’s A Conversation with Badass Women (x)
Retta: My parents are from Liberia, and Liberians are ALL about school. It’s like, no joke. Most of them send their kids to the States to go to school because they think that’s where the best schools are, that sort of thing. And I was a math-science girl, I was pre-med. I was supposed to be a neurosurgeon.
And I remember when I started doing stand up, I was like, “Shit! My mother is going to be like, ‘Are you fucking kidding me right now?’” And I remember calling my mom and saying, “So I’m going to drive to California and do the stand-up thing so I can get into TV.” And my mom, you know, she didn’t freak out like I thought she was totally going to freak out. My dad freaked out. He was like, “Please get health insurance.” That was his big thing, “GET HEALTH INSURANCE.” But my mom was like, “Just remember you’re carrying around your father’s last name. So don’t embarrass him.” She was like, “Do the best that you can. Don’t go playing. If you’re going to do, do it.” So, I dropped my last name so as not to embarrass my father.
But God bless, because a lot of parents wouldn’t…

Ming-na: You know, we have to talk. Because I dropped my stage last name Wen for the longest time when I did ER - which, by the way, I got to tell my mom, “I got to be a doctor for 5 years so, write that off the list.” because of same issues, fatherly things.
But now, I have it back because I’m proud being who I was born as. And we have so much to talk about, girl.

It’s interesting that Nerd HQ’s “A Conversation with Badass Women” is more diverse than the SDCC’s “Women Who Kick Ass” panel…and doesn’t only focus on women who physically kick ass.

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